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Introduction
Parenting is a journey that evolves overtime, shaped by cultural shifts, research, and a deeper understanding of child development.
In the past, traditional parenting was characterised by an authoritative approach that focused on obedience and control. Parents often used punitive measures to instil discipline, believing that respect was earned through fear and dominance. The importance of emotional support was minimal, and children were expected to conform to strict rules without questions.
For eg: If a child throws a tantrum in a store for buying a chocolate, then a parent with traditional approach would shout and firmly say , we are not buying chocolates today. You need to stop this behaviour right now. They would even ignore their tantrum or threaten consequences, such as leaving the store if the child does not calm down. There is no room for emotional support or discussion in this approach.
However, it has become clear that one size fits all approach is not effective in today’s era. Today’s parents recognize that each child is unique, with their own personality, needs , and potential. The realization has paved the way for a more compassionate and connected approach – conscious parenting.
Conscious Parenting encourages parents to connect deeply with their children, understand their needs, and respond thoughtfully rather than reactively. At its core, conscious parenting is about recognizing that being a good parent requires on going learning and self-reflection. Just as an engineer must acquire skills to excel in their field, parents must equip themselves with the tools needed to raise emotionally resilient children.
This style of parenting focuses on fostering a nurturing environment that promotes emotional intelligence , resilience and healthy relationships. Parents are encouraged to reflect on their own emotions, triggers, and behaviours. It also emphasizes honest dialogue which helps children express themselves freely, fostering trust and openness in the parent-child relationship. Children raised in a conscious parenting environment often develop greater emotional awareness and regulation skills.
Eg: A child is throwing a tantrum in a store for buying a chocolate, then a parent with conscious parenting approach will calmly say, I see you are really sad about not getting that chocolate. It’s okay to feel sad, I am here with you. I know it is disappointing, but we can stick to our plan as we agreed before coming to the store that we wouldn’t buy chocolate today.
In this the parent focuses on emotional connection, validation and teaching them to deal with disappointment while maintaining boundaries.
Conclusion
The choice between these approaches depends on individual family values and dynamics, but embracing elements of conscious parenting can enhance the parent –child relationship and support holistic development.